Okay now I am in the groove finally!!
I took tom 1 back apart, pulled out the jack it had a 2 resistor setup formed into a "Y" shape (lay the two next to one another and the bottom 2 leads are twisted together basically and the top forms the Y shape) the 2 ends that where twisted together connected to the wires going to the brass on the piezo's at the jack, then the 1 the other end of the resistor connected to the red or the head piezo wire, then the other end of the other resistor connected to the head lead on the jack.
I removed the 2 resistor setup completely soldered the wires back onto the jack reassembled the tom plugged it in powered up put the headphones on struck the tom with a stick and about busted my eardrum's!!LOL
and that is with the 2.5 inch hole in the foam still as well.
The Kicks I just put on separate channels and adjusted but will take them both apart and see if the one I just purchased has a resistor or not I am thinking it may not have a resistor and the one that came with the kit does will update on that tomorrow.
Thanks again for all the help and suggestions will keep you posted when I complete the rest.